Friday, January 15, 2010

I just don't understand...

I am reading a book about self-esteem. This particular book focuses on spiritual, phycial and scoial self-esteem in different chapters. The chapter on physical self-esteem just didn't sit right with me. Am I the only one who sees the wrong in her logic? She speaks about proper diet, regular exercise, proper clothing, cleanliness, & makeup and hair. I understand that what you present to the world is a reflection of how you feel about yourself. Diet and exercise are essential to good health, I believe. But in her writings about hair and makeup, she says
"President McKay was reported to have said when asked by the Bretheren if women of the church should wear makeup, 'Well, even an old barn looks better when it's painted.'

a few guidleines (I didn't include them all)...
Eyebrows should be immaculately plucked and shaped.
ALWAYS wear mascara and lipstick (no lipstick makes dead lips)
Get a decent haircut, not a do-it-yourselfer."

Then she goes on to say how you should attend a makeup deomnstartion every year and do research in fashion, makeup and grooming. "Above all, strive to be feminine and simple."

I know I don't have the best self-esteem in the world when it comes to my looks but I feel like I have more self-esteem than some because I don't have to wear makeup or have a fancy hairdo or dress in certain clothes. I am comfortable enough to be myself. What do you think? Am I wrong in the way I'm thinking? If I had more self-esteem, would I dress differently, would I take more time to groom myself for the image I want others to see? Or am I just missing the point all together.

What does my lack of style and grooming say to you? I am looking for a sincere and honest answer so just post a comment ananymously.


Anonymous said...

It seems to me that a person with high self-esteem would not need to be obsessed with makeup and expensive haircuts and the latest in fashion. That person would feel that they are fine without all that. So I think you are showing your self-esteem by NOT doing those things. Oh, and you always seem well-groomed to me.

Heather and Thomas Mann said...

I think that some people use the makeup, clothes, hairstyles as a way to hide their insecurities. I think that it is wonderful how you have accepted the wonderful person you are... and embraced it. You don't need all that other crap! Love ya just the way you are!

Valerie said...

You don't have a lack of style. You have your own sense of style. I don't see anything wrong with make-up, but not to be so obsessive with it like this author seems to be. And I wear make-up every day, but I don't think that everybody should or they don't look good. I admire people who feel comfortable without make-up. Interesting sounding book. :)

Epicure68 said...

If you feel better for not wearing makeup, I am completely envious. There's no hard and fast rule about how to improve your self-esteem,it's whatever works for each person, so I say good on ya for being natural.

p.s. thanks for dropping by my blog earlier. :)

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