Friday, January 29, 2010
I've been going to bed earlier this week. I've actually turned off movies in the middle of them so I can get some sleep. I know that being rested helps my mood stay good and it also helps me have enough energy to do the things I have to do so I am trying to get to bed at a good hour. I'm also trying to use my little bit of extra time in the evening to get dinner ready for the next day so I just have to reheat it. The crockpot has become my friend too. It sure is nice to have a fresh, hot meal when I get home from a walk.
But other than that, what are some of the things you do to achieve some sort of balance in your life? I don't even have kids...I would be in trouble if I did.
Thursday, January 28, 2010
I woke up the next morning and the sugar withdrawl started. The first few days were pretty hard. I craved those delicious donuts so bad! In all the cravings, I completely forgot about taking my Nexium. I was just thinking about it today but I haven't had a single one since December 31 and I haven't had a single problem. I don't think I can make junk week an annual event though I did thoroughly enjoy it! My body was trying to tell me something and I ignored it completely. I really need to get better at listening to my body if I plan on living till I'm 105-112 years old (which I do)!
Tuesday, January 26, 2010
Back before I moved to Utah, the church library was getting rid of all the books that weren’t official church material. So I browsed the books and took quite a few. I’ve decided that I need to read them or I need to give them to someone who will. So I picked one out of the pile and started reading it. This one is actually not even written by someone in the church. I didn’t realize that when I picked it out to read. But it was such an inspiring book! I couldn’t put the book down. I would just type out the whole book if I could, it was that good. But let me see if I can summarize it well. I highlighted A LOT in this book! This will be a long post because I absolutely LOVED this book. It was the best one I have read in a while. I’ll share my favorite quote from each section.
1. The seed of self esteem. (This is not the book I blogged about earlier about self esteem.) A lot of this part is about how to build up the self esteem of others but he does also address the reader as well.
“We live in a narcissistic society. We are struggling to move from the ME generation to the WE generation and the going is tough. The elusive preoccupation we have in self-gratification and self-indulgence has been termed narcissism. The word comes from ancient Greek mythology and the story of Narcissus, who fell in love with his own image, reflected in a pool of water. He was the original ‘if it feels good, do it’ guru. Today, narcissism is manifested in redwood hot-tub groupies, designer jeans for tots, too many presents under the Christmas tree, an overt emphasis on youth, sexuality, and physical beauty; and other things and places – things to own, things to adorn and places to own and visit; not to share with others, just to show others.
Don’t confuse narcissism with healthy self-esteem. They are night and day. The word esteem means to appreciate the value of. In the human being, I believe it is the beginning and the first seed to success. It is the basis for our ability to love others and try to accomplish a worthy goal, without fear. Narcissistic self-gratification is a materialistic, hedonistic type of self-worship. Self-esteem is based on the internalization of spiritual love. Why do we stand in awe of the power of the immensity of the sea, the vast unknown reaches of the universe, the beauty of a flower, the splendor of a sunset…and at the same time downgrade ourselves? Did not the same creator make us? Are we not the most marvelous creation of all, with power to think, experience, change our environment and love?
Self-acceptance, as we are right now, is the key to healthy self-esteem—seeing ourselves as worthwhile, changing, imperfect, growing individuals, and knowing that although we were not born with equal mental and physical uniforms—we are born with the equal right to feel deserving of excellence according to our own spiritual standards.
You are a masterpiece of creation. Always carry with you the secret: ‘Love must be within us before it can be given.’”
2. The seed of creativity. In this section he talks about self-talk, mental images and how they impact your life. He says that it is proven that the mind can’t tell the difference between what is real and what is vividly and repeatedly imagined…like in a person who tells a lie so often, they start to believe it themselves.
“Your mental picture of yourself is the key to a healthy development. Who you see in your imagination will always rule your world.
You are your greatest critic. You can devastate your self-esteem and creativity with sarcastic and negative reviews of your daily performance. Or you can elevate your self-image with encouraging and positive feedback and previews of coming attractions. Your self-talk is being monitored and recorded, minute to minute, by your self-image. When you talk to yourself, be careful what you say!”
3. The seed of responsibility. This is another chapter where he explains how to teach others but he does address the reader again.
“In chapter 1 we talked about three great fears: fear of rejection, fear of change and fear of success. One good way to conquer fear and build more self-reliance is to realize that we all are ‘God-created, but self-molded,’ and that we are given love, spiritual leadership, divine rules, and laws to help us understand how we cause our own effects by our decisions.”
4. The seed of wisdom. There was no quote that I absolutely loved in this chapter. He talked about continuing education throughout your life (something we have all heard before). He also addresses the need to find your natural abilities or aptitudes so that you can use those abilities to help set goals right for you.
5. The seed of purpose. He discusses the need to set goals for yourself but my favorite part of this chapter was when he discussed a part of your brain that allows you to focus. I found the very fascinating!
“Radiating from your brain stem is a network of cells, about 4 inches in length, called the reticular activating system.
The reticular activating system performs the unique function f filtering incoming sensory stimuli (sight, sound, smell and touch) and determining which ones are going to make an impression in your mind. It decides, from moment to moment, what information is going to become part of your world.
…Have you ever seen or heard of individuals who always seem to be looking for trouble? Of course, you see them everyday. What they do not realize is that they have tuned their reticular activating systems to guard their minds against success by deliberately seeking the negative inputs and problems they say they are trying to avoid. By considering, so often, the possibilities of failure, their brains have been set up to operate as failure-seeking homing torpedoes!
Stop reading for a moment. Sit quietly and listen carefully to all the sounds around you. It’s interesting, isn’t it, how you are able to concentrate on reading without being aware of all the distractions. The ‘reticular activating system’ filters out the unimportant stimuli and focuses on what is important at the moment. The sound of a crying child, a siren, the ring of a telephone, would cause you to pay less attention to the book and direct your awareness to the sound you heard. Once you have made a distinction that a certain value, idea, sound, picture or feeling is significant to you, your reticular activating system is alerted. It immediately transmits any information it receives regarding the significant item to your consciousness.”
6. The seed of communication. This chapter had a paragraph written just for me. I do this all the time. I don’t know why I do it…maybe because I don’t have anything interesting of my own to say. But nonetheless, I’ve been working on biting my tongue more often but I slip up sometimes.
“… I also had the habit of communication with my children and my wife by playing the game of ‘Can You Top This?’ Whenever they would tell me something really exciting about their world, or something that one of their friends or friends’ families had done, I could hardly wait until they were finished telling me so I could outdo them with my own fantastic experience…”
7. The seed of faith. Denis says that faith and optimism are hand in hand. He tells the reader to associate with the kind of people that have the values and goals you have. That you should make service a part of your daily life and to make Sunday a day to attend church, listening and sharing your faith. He also talks about being careful of the things you listen to and watch.
“Life is a self-fulfilling prophecy; you won’t necessarily get what you want in life, but in the long run you will usually get what you expect.”
8. The seed of adaptability.
“… Two other more active kinds of motivation drive our lives and have much more significant mental and physical effects. These are ‘penalty motivation’ and ‘reward motivation’. I call them the two faces of stress.
‘Penalty motivation’ tells you to do something or there will be a penalty to pay. These options are better known as compulsion (have to) and inhibition (can’t) and there is always a penalty.
‘Reward motivation’ tells you to seek something because there will be a reward for success. It also tells you that you are able to do it. These options are better known as propulsion (want to) and volition (can) and there is always a reward.
Both ‘penalty motivation’ and ‘reward motivation’ cause stress. ‘Penalty motivation,’ associated with feelings of compulsion and inhibition, cause negative stress known as ‘distress.’ Distress leads to disorientation, discomfort, distortion, dysfunction and disease. ‘Reward motivation’, associated with feelings of propulsion and volition, cause positive stress known as eustress. Eustress leads to goal orientation, energy, power, and a sense of well-being.
Is stress god or bad then? The answer is yes, stress is either good or bad, depending on whether you are motivated by ‘penalty of failure’ or motivated by ‘reward of success.’ Which is it for you?”
9. The seed of perseverence.
“Perseverance does not always mean sticking to the same thing forever. It means giving full concentration and attention to whatever you are doing, right now! It means doing the tough things first and looking downstream for gratification and rewards. It means being happy in your work, but hungry for more knowledge and progress. It means making more calls, going more miles, pulling more weeds, getting up earlier in the day and always being on the lookout for a better way of doing what you’re doing. Perseverance is success through trial and error.”
10. The seed of perspective.
“All the best-kept secrets of success involve your perspective—how you see life from within. The seeds of greatness are the responses or attitudes you develop as a result of ‘seeing’ the world more clearly. When you see more clearly, you see yourself as valuable and your self-esteem grows strong. Seeing clearly enables your imagination and creativity to soar. Seeing more clearly gives you the understanding that you are responsible for learning as much and contributing as much as you can to life.
When you see life from within, you see wisdom, purpose, and faith as cornerstones of your family’s foundation. You see through the eyes of love and reach out and touch all those with whom you come in contact. Seeing from within is having the courage to adapt to change, and to persevere when the odds seem overwhelming. Seeing from within is believing that beauty and goodness are worth planting everyday.”
If you made it all the way to the bottom of this post, well, you should have just read the entire book!
Saturday, January 23, 2010
Thursday, January 21, 2010
Wall at the end of the halllway was one big open hole...not anymore.
Wednesday, January 20, 2010
Tucker's toy corner.
Before He sent His children to earth
Gave each of them
A very carefully selected package
He promised smiling,
Are yours alone. No one
Else may have the blessings
These problems will bring you.
And only you
Have the special talents and abilities
That will be needed
To make these problems
Now go down to your birth
And to your forgetfulness. Know that
I love you beyond measure.
These problems I give you
Are a symbol of that Love.
The monument you make of your life
With the help of your problems
Will be a symbol of your
Love for me,
By Blaine M. Yorgason
Monday, January 18, 2010
I decided that since I can;t go touring right now, I will pick a route and ride a small portion of it and turn around and get back to the car. Next time I have time, I will just drive back to that spot, or as close to it as I can, and continue on the route. I am trying out some of the state's bicycle routes to see how they are. The bicycle routes are on regular roads but are supposed to be safer than some other roads. We'll see. We haven't actually made it to the route yet...I decided to bike to the route from home then start.
We went on Azalea DR to Cedars RD. Cedars RD is much more built up than it was when I first moved here but it's still a good road to ride on. This horse pasture is on Cedars.
It was actually quite warm. I was in shorts and a short-sleeved shirt and was plenty warm. So when Jasmine's tongue started hanging out, we took a long break. Afterward, I made her walk up a big hill then I put her in the trailer for 30 minutes while she rested some more.
This is just after I took her out of the trailer. I was trying to get up a hill but decided she was rested so she might as well ease the load and run along with me now. It was starting to cool off anyway.
The rest did her ALOT of good. We only had to stop once for 5 minutes to let her rest. There were a few other stops for water but as soon as she drank, we got back under way.
She did so well the whole way back that even though I had her in the trailer for 30 minutes and made good progress during that time, we managed to shave off 30 minutes from our original out trip. She ran most of the way home. She had me huffing and puffing up some of the hills. She is a super girl!
Right toward the end, after our last water break, I told her "ok, hike" and she started going but I was having trouble getting going. She was actually pulling me and got me going. That's Tucker's influence. She never would pull before. :o) They're both learning good habits from each other. It amazed me that after 12 miles (or whatever the distance was that she covered), she still had the strength to pull me and the load. I forgot how much fun it is to have Jasmine biking with me...slow but fun!
Friday, January 15, 2010
"President McKay was reported to have said when asked by the Bretheren if women of the church should wear makeup, 'Well, even an old barn looks better when it's painted.'
a few guidleines (I didn't include them all)...
Eyebrows should be immaculately plucked and shaped.
ALWAYS wear mascara and lipstick (no lipstick makes dead lips)
Get a decent haircut, not a do-it-yourselfer."
Then she goes on to say how you should attend a makeup deomnstartion every year and do research in fashion, makeup and grooming. "Above all, strive to be feminine and simple."
I know I don't have the best self-esteem in the world when it comes to my looks but I feel like I have more self-esteem than some because I don't have to wear makeup or have a fancy hairdo or dress in certain clothes. I am comfortable enough to be myself. What do you think? Am I wrong in the way I'm thinking? If I had more self-esteem, would I dress differently, would I take more time to groom myself for the image I want others to see? Or am I just missing the point all together.
What does my lack of style and grooming say to you? I am looking for a sincere and honest answer so just post a comment ananymously.
Wednesday, January 13, 2010
A few days ago, I think the day after it snowed here, Adam saw my turtle fur neck band. Well, I don't really know what it's called but I call it a neck band. It's just a double thickness of fleece sewn into a tube. You slip it over your head and wear it around your neck. It's long so it fits inside your coat and keeps your neck very warm. It's more convenient than a scarf because it never falls or comes undone. It just stays in place no matter how much moving around you do. And it's really warm to boot. It's also long enough that you can pull it up as high as just below your eyes to protect more fo your face from the wind and cold. I told him I'd keep an eye for one for him at the thrift stores (where I got mine). He looked at it and decided I could make one.
We had dinner at a b-b-q place with his parents and grandma and then just the two of us watched a movie at home afterward.
On Friday, we are having a party with his friends but it won't be at our house. Our house isn't really big enough and none of his friends are dog people... I'll be making Adam's traditional birthday cake tonight for that party. It's a cake that is gbest after sitting for 2-3 days, or so they say. Not being a cake person, and especially not this cake, I can't say for certain if that's true or not. I'll be sharing the recipe for the unusual cake and equally as unusual frosting recipe soon...which everyone but me seems to love.
Sunday, January 10, 2010
But what makes Adam a handy-man was the moving shelf he put in it. He used to have a really nice desk but we had to leave it here in GA when we left. He took the sliding keyboard drawer off of it and gave the rest of the desk to a woman in the neighborhood. He pulled it out of the garage and started building this sliding shelf so that I can watch while I'm working in the kitchen. Then, on the shelf is a lazy susan so not only is it past the walls of the armoire but it actually can be turned to face the kitchen. The orignal piece of wood from the drawer was too short. But we had the shelves I had cut down for the old laundry closet. They were the shelves all our small kitchen appliances were on. They just happened to be the perfect size for this. So now we have a white shelf...it doesn't match but that's ok! I can paint it if it starts bothering me enough.
Isn't Adam the greatest?
Thursday, January 7, 2010
Adam thought he got all the squirells out and patched the hole on one side of the house. Turns out, one squirell was left inside and he was trying to get out, driving the dogs crazy with his efforts. Adam opened the hole back up and it seems he is gone now. Now, the hole just has to be fixed again so they don't slip back in. He and Aaron cut down a branch that went over the deck and the roof so now it shouldn't be as easy for them to get in again. We'll see...
Look at how tiny his feet actually are under all that fur!
Back at home, I put Neosporin on Bear's feet and covered them up with baby socks (which we keep around for this purpose) so he couldn't lick or gnaw at his pads. With Bear, this is a neccessary thing. When he was a puppy and he was neutered, he got stitches. A couple of days later, I had him out in the yard and he was running around. I heard a yip of pain from him. The next thing I know, he is ripping out his stitches right in front of me and I couldn't get him to stop. But he was healed enough at that point that the vet didn't have to put any new ones in, lucky him.
I went to the pet store and picked up a spray can of citronella. It's in a tube like pepper spray. It sprays up to 10 feet away. So now I am armed and no more dogs had better try anything funny or I will use my new weapon...regardless of whether an owner is around or not.
We took a day off of walking last night to give him an extra day to heal. This morning, his pads were looking really good so we'll try a walk today.
Wednesday, January 6, 2010
Since Adam won't eat anything with onions in them I never have any on hand (except for when he's out of town) so I skipped those. I don't like lima beans so those weren't put in either. I only used about half of the vinegar before tasting it. Even that was too much and I like the tang of vinegar so beware if you don't. I'm just glad I decided to only make half the recipe. I did not like it at all. I ate a bowlful the first night because I was starving. I thought a night chilling in the fridge would help meld the flavors better....not so. It just isn't for me. Just one more thing I can cross off my list of things I've wanted to try.
Monday, January 4, 2010
Sunday, January 3, 2010
Oh, and if you click on the above pic to make it bigger, take a look at the man in the window. That was a lifesize picture of Spock, mounted on a board for a theater display. He stood in the window for years! He scared a lot of people. The Santa hat was his Christmas decoration.
Saturday, January 2, 2010
This is how it looks today. I just hung the last picture for this display. I got the plaque for $3 from a thrift store here and I had to buy 2 5x7 black frames for Tucker and Bear's picture. Everything else was from the last display.